“toxic people hate the truth and hate you for it; stay focused and true to yourself; they will eventually become dust.”

~ unknown

Everyone is a fucking narcissist

Over the past few years, a new buzzword has emerged; narcissist; in fact, so much so that it’s crossed over to TV shows and movies, and even Jonathan Davis from Korn joined in on the festivities, as everyone has suddenly become a fucking narcissist; this was when the red flags started flying in my head as I know when the mainstream catches on to something, it’s likely bullshit, and there is an agenda behind it.

NO contact

Another buzzword is “Going No Contact,” as an influx of self-proclaimed “Life Coaches” suddenly emerged on YouTube as the narcissistic agenda flourished. These “Life Coaches” magically become “experts” by default with their “personal experience” as they simultaneously have no clinical expertise. However, the legitimate “Clinical Experts” spew the same bullshit rhetoric as the “self-proclaimers.” Going “No Contact” is something that is suggested when you are in a toxic relationship; get out, and go “No Contact,” which, for me, is a politically correct way of “ghosting” and becoming a victim to other “victims of narcissistic abuse.” Are you confused yet? The whole thing is a fucking shitstorm of victimhood; I firmly subscribe these individuals were “scripted” into your life for a reason. To learn how to deal with their shit means don’t go no contact; this is meant to make you into the victim.  Pull up your big boy and girl pants and learn how to counterattack their bullshit by stopping giving them gas; it’s that fucking simple. I know this goes against all those “experts.” However, they are part of the problem.

problematic

After several years of studying Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and the similarities between the two, as well as creating a website that gave “real-life” examples of these individuals, because I, too, have been in several of these relationships, in fact, every relationship I was in, was toxic, which included my own family. After creating the website and countless hours of research, it was then that I had an epiphany that the term “No Contact” was coined to keep you in a “Victim Mentality.” However, I must add there is a caveat to this. If you feel your life is in danger, then by all means, call 911 and get the fuck out. With that said, my most recent situation was (at times) dangerous; yet, I never felt like I was in danger, if that makes sense, as the person I was with hurled shit at me, pulled a knife on me, hit me, called me names, and even called the cops, which ended by going to the joint, followed by the individual bailing me out; which by the way is very common and the charges will get instantly round-filed by the DA. As I was saying, I’m 99.99% positive that going “no contact” was created to keep you in a victim mentality. This means it gives you a trump card to do precisely what toxic individuals do; play the victim; I must say, this is a very clever way to flood the shrink offices and the most recent implication of the ZOOM shrink.

No contact, no contract

I have always had a fascination with psychology, how shit works, and a thirst for knowledge and life experience; I have no desire to play the victim; instead, I want to learn everything I can, which morphed into the epiphany I received from the Chi. So, for those reasons, I wanted to learn everything I could about this narcissist agenda, as narcissists have an unusual way of thinking, as it is backward and upside down compared to the way I think. Therefore, they see you the same way, hence the conflict. It is the oil and water concept. In other words, it’s all part of how this reality works, and as I’ve said many times, everything just is and is the antithesis of why everyone is a fucking narcissist; it’s all about perception. Meaning everyone projects their belief system onto the other. However, there is a difference between a toxic person versus a non-toxic person with this concept. However, I also see another issue: the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders). This is the Bible of mental disorders. However,  who fucking wrote it and why? I have a simple answer: to feed the drug companies’ machines and peg those diagnosed with mental disorders to be deemed as crazy and to have that on their medical record to be used against them in the future. 

bag of tricks

Toxic people have an arsenal of tricks they use against you, and these things are designed to make you feel like you’re going crazy; one thing you must remember is it’s all a fucking illusion, so they think they are in control, ONLY if you allow it. It takes a lot of mindfulness work to develop a strong mental state for their tactics not to affect you.

• Gaslighting is essentially lying 2.0 and designed to alter your reality. “I was just joking,” “No one likes you.” “Your ugly.” etc. (The term comes from the 1944 film “Gaslight.”)
• Projection – Blaming you for the very thing they do.
• Passive Aggressiveness – A non-verbal tactic to make a point.
• Deflecting – Turn shit back onto you to evade responsibility.
• Flying Monkeys – Individuals used to gather intel about you and report back to them. Flying monkeys are made to believe they are doing good, but it’s all an illusion as they are being used.
• Make Fun of You – Used to make you feel self-conscious to give the illusion there is something wrong with you.
• Love Bombing – Giving you material items, or an overabundance of praise and admiration, then slowly stop.
• Pet Names – This is meant to make you feel special; instead, it is designed to dehumanize.
• Stonewalling – A tactic used in arguments by not backing down and repeating the same shit repeatedly.
• Word Salad – Like stonewalling; repetitive psychobabble, talking in circles, never getting to the point.
• Devalue – Not allowing you to get to your point, cutting you off, changing the subject, calling your ideas stupid, and not allowing you to have your truth. (this is one of their most favorite)
• Blame – This is one of the most significant tactics of society in general, as the majority cannot point the finger at themselves. This is one of the biggest challenges in acquiring a higher level of consciousness on the Personal Development road.
• Double Bind – Dammed if you do, dammed if you don’t, catch 22. In other words, when you are put in a situation, every scenario you think of, your fucked.
• Blame shifting – Shift the blame against you, as they cannot take responsibility for their shit.
• Discard – When you stop reacting to their shit.
• Literal Thinking – In my experience, toxic people take everything literally and cannot use deductive reasoning to conclude.
• Nit Pick – Find something wrong with everything. (Symantec’s)
• Silent Treatment – A tactic used to gain control over you. They will stop talking to you for days, weeks, or years. Please don’t give in; that’s what they want. Enjoy the silence.
• Splitting – You are either all good or all bad; no middle ground. This is also known as black-and-white thinking and is primarily a BPD trait, which I touch on in another post.
• Theft – They will steal your shit. If you leave something at their place, it becomes theirs by proxy.
• Smear Campaign – One of the oldest tricks in the book, Made up bullshit about you to ruin your reputation. Unfortunately, most will believe it, as the masses are gullible and don’t question anything they are told, making this an effective passive-aggressive way to make you look like an idiot, which in the end, will fizzle out, as the truth is revealed when your actions don’t align with the said, bullshit.

What’s my point?

Since narcissists cannot take responsibility for their shit, they use projection; thus, if they watch a YouTube video about narcissism, they will use projection and see you as the narcissist since narcissists cannot self-reflect, as it requires empathy and acceptance that they are flawed. This is another reason I’m confident the Narcissism agenda is a psyop to create the illusion that all of society is narcissistic. Another aspect of why this is a possible psyop is it keeps the “victim’ in a perpetual need for validation, as it becomes their religion. It is crucial that once you become aware of their tactics, you must stop reacting to their shit. Become neutral and don’t react; implementing this will extinguish their fire.

How?

Do your research and practice mindfulness. It would be best to let go of your instincts to fight back and defend yourself against the abovementioned tactics. This requires copious amounts of discipline, as we have been programmed to fight back when our buttons are pushed and our reality is challenged. It’s all part of human nature, and that’s why this method isn’t for everyone, as the majority can’t keep their fucking mouths shut. I’m not boasting but keeping it real, as I have always been very self-disciplined. In the long run, not reacting to their bullshit is extremely self-gratifying. However, you must be aware that they may become resentful toward you, which could be potentially dangerous, as they may start a smear campaign against you. Nevertheless, stay focused and true to yourself, and stop caring what others might think about you, as the truth will punch through the fabric of bullshit and morph into a better reality.